If BIRTH CONTROL FOOLED Us, What Else Is Slipping Through The Cracks?
I used to douse every crevice of my body with Victoria's Secret body spray. And I couldn't wait to buy the next new hot pink underwire bra with the matching lace thong, at a very young age. Now I don't even own a bra. The only thong I have is a single organic cotton one I wear once in a while under a specific skirt.
This isn't a piece about shame. So many of us had no idea. We were told these things were good for us, trendy, feminine, normal. Nobody sat us down and asked whether they were actually supportive of our physiology, our energy, our innate way of being as women. This is about awareness, not pointing fingers. Because once you start learning your body, learning to be in relationship with her, you start to understand what real nourishment feels like, not just in food, but in clothing, in products, in self touch, in the words you use for yourself.
Here are five common trends worth questioning.
One. Crop Tops And Low Back Exposure
Don't get me wrong, I love a good crop top on a hot summer day. This isn't anti fashion. But it's worth pausing on what lives in that space being exposed. In front, it's the womb, one of the most sacred and intelligent organs a woman carries, capable of creating life, of cycling with the moon, of telling the truth about your health month after month. In the back, that same horizontal band of skin is home to the Dai Mai, the Girdle Vessel in Chinese medicine, the one meridian that wraps around the waist like a belt, holding everything else in place. Exposing that space isn't only about cold air. It's about whether you're staying warm, staying held, staying gathered in, or leaving something so intelligent open to everyone else's gaze.
Two. High Waisted, Tight Banded Bottoms
The flip side of the same coin. A tight, constrictive band sitting right on that midline puts pressure on the womb and restricts digestion, right where your body needs room to breathe and do her quiet, constant work. A looser waistband, a belly allowed to soften, is a more freeing way to move through the world. Not because tight clothes are bad, but because that space deserves a little more air than we usually give her.
Three. Thongs And Tight Synthetic Underwear
The yoni is one of the most self-regulating, intelligent parts of the body, she maintains her own microbiome, her own pH, her own defenses, when she's given the chance. Constant friction and synthetic fabric right against that space works against what she's already trying to do. Breathable, natural fabric isn't a rule, it's just an easier collaboration with a system that already knows what it's doing.
Four. Underwire Bras
Right around the breast tissue is a dense network of lymph, part of how your body clears and moves what no longer serves her. Underwire sits directly on that pathway, holding it still with metal and padding, when what that tissue wants most is drainage and movement.
And a note here: I am not against sexy lingerie. It's a beautiful way for us women to adorn ourselves, to feel beautiful and empowered. My point isn't to talk anyone out of buying it. It's to ask who's selling it to you, why you feel the need to buy it, and whether it's something you're wearing as an everyday restriction rather than a beautiful choice.
Five. Scented, Hormone Disrupting Products
The makeup, the body sprays, the perfumes, the scented feminine products, even the ones made for the vagina, which was never asking for a scent in the first place. These are xenoestrogens and endocrine disruptors, chemicals absorbed straight through the skin, quietly asking your hormones to behave differently than they're meant to. Your body isn't asking for fragrance. She's asking to be moisturized, warmed, and left alone to do what she already knows how to do. Something like organic jojoba oil speaks her language a little better than propylene glycol does.
Nourishment, Not Restriction
None of this is about doing it perfectly or feeling guilty about the crop top in your closet or the lingerie drawer you love. It's about asking the question. Is this nourishing me, or restricting me? Once you start asking, you can't stop, and that's exactly the point.
If this stirred something, that quiet sense of wanting to know your body better instead of managing her, that's exactly the work we'd do together.